Relationships are based on the compatibility of two different persons and as every person is unique in their own way so are their relationships. No two relationships of any two different people could be exactly the same. Therefore, comparison could not be the wise criteria to judge the health of relationships. So do not compare your relationships with others.
However, most of the people used to compare their relationship with others and remain frustrated throughout the life. They always try to measure the success of their relationship with the scale of comparison against other relationships and at the end only collect unhappiness for themselves.
If you are used to compare your relationship with other, here are few reasons why you should not compare your relationships with others:
YOU HAVE LIMITED KNOWLEDGE OF OTHER’S RELATIONSHIP
Relationships are very much personal. Nobody shares everything to anybody and if someone likes to show off, then they flaunt only the better aspects of their relationship. So to presume that you know everything about someone’s relationship is childish.
That is why, to compare your relationships with others is not good for you and your relationships as well because chances are you often compare your worst part of relations to the good part of others and get frustrated in life.
WASTAGE OF TIME AND ENERGY
Comparing your relationships is not going to take you anywhere except making you feel pity about yourself. It is a complete waste of time and energy. So do not waste your precious time and energy in a thing which is not going to bring any good results in your life.
MAKE YOU NEGATIVE
People generally compare their relationship with others when they feel that there is something missing. They compare what they do not like in their relations to what they like in others, and that leads them to focus on negative aspects of their relationships. So, the worst part of comparing relationships is that it will make you negative.
RUINS THE UNIQUENESS OF RELATIONSHIP
Comparing your relationships with others and trying to copy or imitate the better part of someone’s relation is not so good for your relationships because you and your partner are unique and so are your relationships. By doing this you will only lose the uniqueness of your relationships.
TAKE YOU AWAY FROM THE JOY OF RELATIONSHIP
The drawback of comparing your relationship with others is that you always keep your focus on other’s relationship and deprive yourself to enjoy your own. Your focus gets trapped in other’s relationship, and you forget to concentrate on yours, and this not only makes you feel sorry for yourself but also hurt your partner.
Finally, our happiness depends on our capacity to love and respect our partner or other relations. Do not waste your time and energy in a futile attempt to measure the value of relationship in comparisons with others. It is not only unfair because of our limited knowledge about other’s relationships but also creates a tension between you and your partner and that in turn take you deprive you of joy of being in relationships. So if you want to have loving and caring people around you, then do not compare your relationships with others.