Holding grudges is self-destructive. It is a block that holds you back. Maybe you can feel there are genuine reasons to hold grudges against someone. Even so, it will only harm you and make you bitter and stressful.Grudges create obstacles on the path of personal growth and can limit your achievement. It occupies part of your mind, which are crucial for your growth and that weigh you down. Therefore, you should never hold grudges against anyone for the sake of your own benefits.
Not to hold grudges does not mean that you should not stand for yourself whenever you are being wronged. Standing up for yourself does not mean that you are holding grudges against someone. Let the other person know that you are offended by what was said or what was done to you. Sometimes the hurtful words or actions of others could be the heavy price for your small mistakes. In that situation, stop feeling sorry for yourself and inform them that their behavior is not acceptable. Once you convey your message clearly by standing your ground, you should not allow anger to control you and never keep on holding the grudges.
To stop grudges you need to forgive others and most importantly, yourself. Being a human being we all make mistakes; what is important is to learn from mistakes and not to repeat them. Let go of grudges and move on. Life is enjoyed by the person who does not carry the burden of past otherwise it would be simply dragging. Grudges can make you unhappy and take excitement and passion away from your life. So, consciously train your mind for never holding grudges so that you can live happily; enjoying each moment of life passionately.