The secret of leading of a successful life is to be optimistic and work efficiently towards your dream to turn it into reality. If you are pessimistic, your energy gets depleted and because of that you would not be able to dedicate your complete attention and energy for the completion of the task at hand and thus reduce your tenacity to get successful in your effort. You have to use your energy judicially to keep on progressing in life and by being pessimist you tend to waste your energy which is essential to upgrade your life and be happy.
The main drawback of pessimism is that it creates a self-fulfilling prophecy which in turn often invites trouble in life. If you start predicting unrealistic things or expect something to go wrong, you attract the situations and circumstance that help them to go wrong. Pessimism can also make you isolated in society as people like someone who is optimistic because they feel better around them. Pessimism does not vanish easily and overnight. It takes time, patience, and determined effort. Here are some of the ways that you would find it useful to overcome pessimism and live life to your full potential:
1) ADDRESS YOUR ANXIETY
There is a close relation between anxiety and pessimism and both affect each other. Where there is the existence of one, there is a chance of another one existence because both feed each other. That is why, if you want to overcome pessimism, you need to think about and figure out what makes you anxious. There could be some pressing issue in your life that has been ignored or your over expectation does not matched and that in turn lead you think negatively. The more you understand about the cause of your pessimism, the better it would be for you to figure out the way to overcome pessimism.
2) STOP NEGATIVE THOUGHT
The key to stop negative thought is to change it with positive one. There are already a lot of problems in this world to put you down and by holding negative thoughts you again put an extra burden on yourself which halt your progress in life. So replace your negative thought with positive one, pick yourself up from every challenging situation, build confidence in order to move on and move ahead.
3) CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE
One of the best ways to overcome pessimism is to change your perspective and see the problems as a challenge and handle them confidently. It is not the problem in itself, but it is your negative attitude toward them creates problems for you. If you remain positive while facing the challenges of life, it really helps you to get over it.
4) KEEP YOURSELF BUSY
Keeping your mind idle, often lead you to develop negative thought and the right way to overcome negativity is to keep yourself busy. You should make a conscious effort to avoid sitting idle. Whenever you become aware that you are sitting idle and your mind is wandering here and there, you should keep yourself busy in some fruitful activities or hobbies which you love to do the most and divert your attention from unhealthy negative thoughts to positive one which would help you to overcome pessimism.
5) THINK POSITIVE
To overcome pessimism, you have to challenge your negative thinking and start replacing it with positive thoughts and keep on holding it. Whenever you think, “You cannot do certain task. Challenge it and ask yourself, why you cannot do this? What experience and skills are required to complete the task? If you lack certain skills and can learn them, then you can definitely do that task.” If you can learn to think positive, you can figure out the way to complete the task. So start thinking, “You can do the task that is essential for your progress and not doing it makes you negative.” Once you start thinking positive, you would attract all the skills and expertise that help you to achieve your desired task.
6) REDUCE YOUR EXPECTATION
Having high expectation can make you vulnerable to fear that your expectations will not be met and that make you think negatively. In other words, expectations that make you miserable will lead you to be pessimistic in life and this often occurs when you have an unrealistic or high expectation in life. Generally, the person who has low expectations or no expectation at all, never becomes pessimistic in life and completes their task at hand with full dedication and thus gets rewarded for the same. So reduce your expectation and learn to focus on the task on hand to give it your best because it is not your expectations, but it is the task that you complete gets rewarded.
7) SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
Surrounding yourself with positive people can have a profound impact on your attitude. If you surround yourself with pessimistic people in your life, you would inevitably become more pessimistic and begin to see the world negatively. On the other hand, if you surround yourself with positive people, you would see an opportunity to learn and grow even in difficulties. That is why, if you want to overcome pessimism, create some new relationship or be with the people who are optimistic.
8) PRACTICE GRATITUDE
The secret to overcome pessimism smoothly and early is the practice of gratitude on a regular basis. To practice gratitude and make it a habit, you need to train yourself to look for things to be grateful for, even if it is trivial. Practicing gratitude on a regular basis, even for the small things that make your life easy and comfortable, make you feel lucky and you would eventually get over the pessimism.
9) CHALLENGE YOUR LIMITATIONS
Know your limitations and challenge them so that you can go out of your comfort zone in order to explore new opportunities for your improvement. Life is thrilling when you go out of your comfort zone and do things that give you the sense of achievement, new perspective, and provide new direction to your life. Once you start exploring new opportunities beyond your comfort zone, you no longer remain pessimistic in life.
10) ENJOY THE PRESENT AND KEEP YOUR FOCUS ON THE TASK AT HAND
Stop brooding over the past, and worrying about the future; learn to enjoy the present. If you are worried about the future, you would not be able to concentrate on the task at hand and unintentionally reduce the chance to succeed. On the other hand, if you focus on the task at hand, you would handle the situations appropriately and the result would be good. Once you start to enjoy the present and keep your focus on the task at hand, you would also start succeeding and that in turn boosts your level of confidence and leaves no room for pessimism.
To conclude, the most effective way to overcome pessimism is to start small and be persistent with it. Make a routine to think highly positive about your life for just a few second in a day, even if something bad happened and grow on it until you form a habit to naturally reflect positively in every situation of life. To enhance your optimistic attitude, you should also keep yourself physically fit and learn to smile very often. The body and the mind are correlated and both affect each other. You cannot be pessimistic while keeping a smile on your face.
Life is not always a smooth ride; some bumpy rides are also in the offing. That is why, pessimism is not completely bad things; a little bit of pessimism help you to be grounded otherwise you could end up getting yourself into a heap of trouble. However, you should make sure not to get stuck in pessimism; otherwise it will make the process of learning and growing with the flow of life really tough for you. Pessimism should work for you; not against you by creating obstacles in the path of your growth. So if you want to make your life worthwhile to live and be happy forever, you should make an effort to overcome pessimism.