How to overcome taking things personally

Personal Growth

Taking things personally is emotionally draining and a stumbling block to make progress in life. You may be the important character of your story or feel more intelligent and worthy, but other people have their own story and you may not fit in their story. So it is not wise to expect from people to take you in consideration every time. Do not take things personally if others do not pay attention to you, you never know what they are going through or what is more important for them at any given situation.

Taking things personally for someone action is not going to help you positively in life. If you give undue attention to what others think about you, how they behave to you, or their negative action, you would keep your mind occupied with negative thoughts and that would affect your actions and progress in life. Taking things personally is a sign of low self-esteem. However, if you do not take things personally, you can control your emotion and respond appropriately in any given situations. Here are some of the ways, you may find useful to overcome taking things personally, improve your self-esteem and enjoy the life:

Ignore impolite people

We do not have control over people act or behaviors, but we do have control over whether or not to get affected by other people action. People tend to behave out of their own upbringing, social life, habit, and mindset. It is not your weakness if someone does not treat you in a dignified way. The way people treat us is more about their mindset and how they view the world rather than it is about you.

Do not expect much from others

You have your own priorities in life and so are the other people have their own. You cannot be the main focal point in anyone’s life. The world does not revolves around you. You may be the main character of your own story, but you cannot be the most important person in another person’s life because they are the main character in their story. So it is unwise to expect much from others and do not take personally if someone does not give importance to you.

Do not let the criticism affect you

It is easy for people to see what you cannot see by yourself. If criticism appears constructive to you, it is worth taking the time to listen and correct yourself. Sometimes people do criticize out of their habit even if they do not intend to criticize you so you should ignore them and do not take it personally.

Respect the perspective of other people

The best way to stop taking things personally and get mature in real sense is try to see the world from the perspective of other people. The world does not revolve around you and so other people are free to pay their attention wherever they feel important. It is the ego that leads you to take things personally if other people are paying attention to you. So respecting the perspective of other people helps you to stop taking things personally.

Improve your self-esteem

Take responsibility to improve your life and do not allow other people dictates terms in your life. What other people think about you does not matter most, the way what you think about yourself matter in life. Others may have different opinions about yourself because you never know what is going on in their life and what motivates you to think so.

Hence, always keep in mind that we live in the world where you cannot expect nice behavior from others all the time. Your importance is not going to be less if someone does not pay attention to you or not behave properly. It is not what others action towards you, but how much you give importance to you matters in life. So do your best and never takes things personally in order to enjoy and move forward in life.